Reclaiming our Intuition: a Highly Sensitive and Queer perspective
As sensitive queer folks, we often have strong intuition. We feel things deeply, pick up on subtle cues, and sense when something is off. But many of us have been taught to ignore or gaslight that inner voice. Over time, we start to doubt ourselves. We second-guess our feelings and brush off what our body and heart are trying to tell us.
How we start to doubt ourselves
You’ve probably had moments where your gut told you something was wrong, but you stayed quiet. Maybe you told yourself you were just being “too sensitive” or overreacting. Maybe you stayed in a situation that didn’t feel right just to keep the peace.
For LGBTQ+ people, this can run even deeper. Growing up questioning or hiding who we are can lead us to doubt our own truth. If we were told our feelings or identity weren’t valid, it’s no wonder we learned to ignore our instincts.
The challenges of being Queer and Sensitive
When you’re both queer and highly sensitive, it’s easy to feel like the world wasn’t built for you. You might have pushed down your feelings, ignored discomfort around gender or sexuality, or stayed in spaces that didn’t feel safe, just to fit in.
There’s also a lot of pressure to act tougher, quieter, or more “normal” in a society that doesn’t always value sensitivity or queerness. But the truth is, your intuition isn’t something to shut down. It’s something to listen to and trust.
How to start trusting your intuition again
The good news? You can reconnect with your inner voice. It starts with noticing what your body and emotions are trying to tell you, without judgement. Give yourself space to feel, reflect, and validate what comes up.
Some things that might help:
Journaling what your gut (or other part of your body you feel it) is saying
Be present and check in with your body during the day
Surrounding yourself with people who respect your sensitivity and identity
Saying no when something doesn’t feel right
The more you listen to your intuition, the stronger it gets.
Moving forward with trust
It’s okay if you’ve ignored your inner voice in the past. We all have. What matters now is being kind to yourself and choosing to listen going forward.
Start small. Set boundaries that feel good. Say yes to what lights you up. Trust your feelings about people, spaces, and decisions. Over time, you’ll build a life that feels more true to who you are: sensitive, queer, and powerful.
🌈 If you’re interested in joining a community for Highly Sensitive Queer people like you, check out the Community page and join the waitlist to get updates of what’s coming!
