Support for Highly Sensitive Queer people
Are you a highly sensitive LGBTQ+ person? We offer support, tools, and community for people like you. This is a space where your sensitivity and queerness are strengths, not problems.
What does it mean to be a Highly Sensitive Queer Person?
A highly sensitive person (HSP) is someone with a personality trait called sensory-processing sensitivity, which affects about 20% of the population.
HSPs experience heightened reactions to emotional and physical stimuli, including bright lights, loud noises, emotional intensity, and even hunger or pain. While this sensitivity can feel overwhelming at times, it also comes with incredible strengths like creativity, empathy, and a deep appreciation for art and philosophy.
For LGBTQ+ individuals, navigating a world shaped by heteronormative expectations can intensify feelings of being ‘different’ or out of place. The combination of high sensitivity and not fitting traditional societal norms can sometimes leave you feeling isolated or misunderstood. But here’s the truth: your differences are your superpowers.
Being highly sensitive means your nervous system picks up a lot, sounds, emotions, shifts in people’s moods. Add queerness to the mix, and you’re often navigating a world that misunderstands or overlooks both.
Signs you might relate:
Loud places and conflict drain you quickly
Injustice (especially LGBTQ+ issues) hits you hard
You need regular downtime or alone time
You’re very empathetic and tend to notice details others miss
You’ve been called “too sensitive” or “overly emotional”
You want real, honest connection, not surface-level chat
You get overstimulated easily, or feel exhausted a lot
Common struggles as an LGBTQ+ HSP
Being a highly sensitive LGBTQ+ person in a world that rewards toughness and conformity can feel like carrying too much, too often. Instead of feeling seen, supported, or safe to be your full self, you might find yourself shrinking, second-guessing, or burning out.
Here’s what many of us are are challenged by:
Overwhelm and burnout
Getting easily overwhelmed in high-energy or noisy environments. Wanting connection but needing space at the same time.
Self-suppression
Feeling like you always have to explain or defend who you are. It’s exhausting.
Constant hypervigilance
Constantly reading the room for safety or exclusion, keeps you in a low-level state of stress and alertness.
Self doubt and trust
Questioning your intuition, your creativity, your worth or your place in this heteronormative world.
Setting boundaries
Difficulty saying no, protecting your energy, or putting yourself first, leading to people-pleasing, resentment, or burnout.
People pleasing
Burning out from overcommitting or people-pleasing. Masking to suit others over yourself.
Strengths of LGBTQ+ HSPs
As a highly sensitive person, you also have some amazing abilities that you may not have noticed or acknowledged. Once you understand and work with your sensitivity, it becomes a huge strength.
Some of your innate qualities include:
Deep empathy
You can sense what others are feeling, even when they can’t name it themselves. This makes you a compassionate listener, leader, and friend.
Strong emotional intuition
You’re tuned in to subtle shifts in energy, mood, and meaning. You feel what’s beneath the surface, and that insight can guide you
Creative visionaries
Because you live at the intersection of queerness and sensitivity, you see what’s missing, and imagine something more inclusive, more tender, more just.
Built in resilience
Even if you’ve been dismissed or misunderstood, you’ve learned how to adapt, protect your energy, and keep showing up with heart.
Meaningful relationships
You don’t do shallow. You’re wired for depth, loyalty, and real connection, and you help others feel truly seen.
Quiet strength
You may not be loud, but your presence is steady, calming, and wise. You notice what others miss. You hold space that others can rest in.
Our mission is to help highly sensitive LGBTQ+ people to reclaim their power, trust themselves and create a life that feels aligned, fulfilling, and true to who they are.
A space for Sensitive Queer people
When we say queer, we mean it in the broadest, most inclusive sense. It includes all LGBTQIA+ identities, like lesbian, gay, bisexual, trans, non-binary, asexual, intersex, as well as anyone who feels outside of or in resistance to cisnormative, heteronormative norms. Queer is about fluidity, self-definition, and belonging beyond boxes. It’s personal and powerful. You’re existence is a quiet revolution in itself.
At Sensitive and Queer, we bring together queer HSPs who feel things strongly and want tools and support to live well. This is a down-to-earth, no-fluff space built for folks who want to grow, connect, and thrive.
There’s no fix included or needed. If you’ve ever felt like you’re too sensitive for this world, or too queer, or not queer enough, this is a place where you don’t have to choose. You can be both. You can be fully yourself. And you can do it in a way that works for your nervous system.
What you’ll find at Sensitive and Queer
Courses, resources and tools
Simple practices to reset when you're overwhelmed
Journaling prompts to help you understand yourself better
Audio tools for grounding, created with queer folks in mind
Coaching that gets you
Personalised 1:1 and group options to support you in:
Handling life transitions
Building a business that fits who you are
Coming back from burnout
A Community that feels good
A low-pressure space to:
Share what’s really going on
Connect with people who understand sensitivity and queerness
Be yourself without having to shrink or explain
Where to start
Want to explore more?
Start here:
Subscribe to the newsletter for updates
Grab the free Embrace Your Sensitivity Toolkit
Join the community waitlist
Read more on the blog
Learn more about 1:1 Coaching and book a free intro call
You don’t need to be louder or tougher to belong. You need a space where you can breathe.
You’re in the right place.
Say hello anytime.
Commonly asked questions
Q: Do I need a diagnosis to be highly sensitive?
A: No. Sensitivity is a trait, not a disorder. You can take Dr. Elaine Aron’s test Are you a Highly Sensitive person? if you’d like to see what level of sensitivity you are.
Q: Is this only for folks who are both sensitive and queer?
A: We focus on that intersection, but anyone who feels aligned is welcome.
Q: What if I’m still figuring out my identity?
A: That’s totally fine. You don’t have to have it all figured out to be here.