About Sensitive & Queer

I’m a highly sensitive gay woman, and for a long time, I built my whole world around being what others needed me to be.

It started young, the people-pleasing. I picked up early on that my sensitivity made people uncomfortable, so I started editing myself. I smiled when I wanted to cry. I said “I’m fine” when I was drowning inside. Even suffering from anxiety and depression, I became the nice one, the good one, the one who didn’t take up too much space. Add queerness to the mix and the pressure to perform a version of myself that was digestible, acceptable, safe and the mask became heavier.

I had to learn early on how to read the room for safety and acceptance. Working in busy, fast-paced environments, I became the peacekeeper, the overachiever, the person who knew how to make others comfortable even when I was deeply uncomfortable myself. I was constantly exhausted.

I told myself if I could just get it right, I’d finally feel okay.

But perfectionism doesn’t protect you, it disconnects you. From your truth, your body, your joy.

Eventually, I burned out. Not just physically, but emotionally. I was tired of performing. Tired of hiding. Tired of always trying to be good enough, in a world that made me feel wrong for who I was.

That was the turning point.

I slowly began to untangle my worth from how useful, agreeable, or successful I was. I began to grieve the parts of myself I had silenced to survive. I stopped chasing perfection and started practising compassion. I stopped people-pleasing and started reclaiming boundaries.

I worked with my nervous system, not against it. I stopped trying to fix myself and started to really listen to myself instead. And I realised:

My sensitivity isn’t a fault.

My queerness isn’t a problem.

They’re both joyful parts of who I am, and they lead to depth, connection, creativity, and resilience.

As I healed and reconnected with my sensitivity, I realised I didn’t want to keep shaping myself to fit into systems that weren’t made for people like me, so I started creating my own. I began leading projects and building a business rooted in care, creativity, and authenticity. It hasn’t always been easy, but learning to lead as my full, sensitive, queer self has been powerful.

Now, I support other highly sensitive LGBTQ+ folks to unlearn the need to be anything other than themselves, releasing the masks and expectations, and remembering how to create, lead and live in ways that feel true, sustainable, and aligned.